Okay, okay. All of this is a lead into what I want to blog about...that almost terrorizing topic of...what we tell ourselves. I think I will tackle the negative side first. Some of you may recognize these...
I will get to that (whatever it is) tomorrow. First thing in the morning, I will call so and so. After this project is finished, I will eat better or start walking or spend more time with my family or start a sports program or take a class. Want to go deeper? When I lose this weight, I will be happier; when the boss sees what I can really do, I can ask for a raise; if I weren't so busy, I could ask Sally to go out to lunch and see what is bothering her; there will be other games, I have the whole season to watch Johnny; it doesn't matter what I think, so why even try to explain.
Now for the positive ...
So, my point. Listen to your own self-talk. What are you telling yourself? Does it hang on a mental hook in the back of your mind? Take it off the hook and put it down on paper. Take time to write it down and then figure out what part of it you really want to throw out and what part needs some action. We do this all the time for our work, why not for ourselves? It is kind of cool to have that conversation with yourself and actualize it on paper. You could even put some goals and dates next to things. How do we get things done? We take action. How do we take action? We know what we want to do. How do we know what we want to do? We think about it and spend some time with each idea and then make decisions and then, formulate a plan. You keep some stuff and throw out some stuff. And, the really great thing about a plan? You can change it. It is adaptable, a good plan isn't written in stone -- it is flexible. I think that is what scares us sometimes about writing down goals and even desires -- we feel it a certain commitment. Guess what? You can change your mind. The main thing is to recognize (be aware of) what you are telling yourself about anything...anything at all.
And, did you know, that you can pick up the Triscuit crumbs in the bottom of the bowl with the cheese? I am laughing so hard.
Let me know what you think. I know checking in with my self-talk is a very good thing and, hopefully, it will benefit you to recognize yours and take some action.
My greatest intention is to help you.