We all sure worry, don't we? We worry about what is going to happen tomorrow (future). We worry about what happened yesterday (past). I've have been talking to people lately about anxiety and fear and and most of them seem to be conditioned into the art of worry, too. We are certainly not alone in that leaking boat.
Flip the script, folks...Recognize as you are folding the clothes -- "I am taking care of my family". Recognize as you are paying bills (ouch) -- "I paid for my phone this month". Recognize as you are driving to work -- "I have a car". Recognize as you are preparing your project for presentation -- "I have been given this to do and I can do it well". Recognize as you are sitting on the patio enjoying the breeze and beverage and beautiful evening -- "this is nice". Do you see how past events or things that might happen tomorrow don't really fit into this present moment?
So much of the "stuff" we stress about isn't even events or people in our lives... it is about how we think about it that creates the worry.
Definitions of worry from the Merriam-Webster dictionary:
(I kinda relate all of these definitions to what we do to ourselves when we worry...)
1 dialect British : choke, strangle (we are strangling our happiness)
2 a : to harass by tearing, biting, or snapping especially at the throat b : to shake or pull at with the teeth c : to touch or disturb something repeatedly d : to change the position of or adjust by repeated pushing or hauling (we are biting and snapping at ourselves; constantly revisiting the problem or hauling that mental rock up the hill at every opportunity)
3 a : to assail with rough or aggressive attack or treatment : torment b : to subject to persistent or nagging attention or effort (we are beating ourselves up)
4 : to afflict with mental distress or agitation : make anxious
How can you live in the moment? Insist on changing the worrying moments into now moments. Let the past go (what can really you do about it anyway?) and the future unfold, as it inevitably will.
Here are some ideas that may be blocking you from living in and enjoying the moment:
assumptions (thinking you know how something will turn out or why someone said or did something); continually creating drama (take a breath and give the other person(s) a break); taking it all personally (me, me, me, mine, mine, mine -- reminds me of the seagulls and the little NEMO fish); living (rolling around in and wallowing -- oooh, but the mud feels so cool) in the negative; ruminating on the should have, could have, would have, scenarios (two months or one year from now, you won't even remember most of the things that are currently looming so large in your life); pity party -- poor, poor me (aren't you sick of your own misery, yet? Everyone else is...). Interesting list, eh?
Let's go back to the positive. Be alert to focus on the good, the happy, the sweet, the things that touch you deeply, the beauty and order of the leaves on the trees. Good surrounds us and we often run right by it in our rushing thoughts to solve the problem. Oh, and one more thing I have found to be so useful...ask yourself this question..."What am I thankful for?"
Oh gosh, wishing you happy, peaceful, satisfying NOW moments. This is one of them.
Thank you to Rice Agency for the photo!